5 POSITIVE WAYS TO HEAL A BROKEN HEART

One of the painful experiences and simply supported by logical reasons is receiving rejections or going through an unwanted break-up after getting so attached to someone. This is because our brains are wired from the beginning of bonding which caused breakups batter us biologically. According to an anthropologist from Rutgers University, Helen Fisher says: “… everyone reacts to rejection like a drug user going through withdrawal”. Several key areas of our brain activates – from the midbrain area which controls motivation and is known to be involved in romantic love; the orbitofrontal/prefrontal cortex, part of dopamine, which is responsible for craving and addiction; and the insular cortex and anterior cingulate, associated with physical pain and distress.

As much as studies could provide helpful guidelines to those who are in this situation, I do not wish to speak of myself, but rather add something that is proven and tested from a quote that says: “Experience is the best teacher”.

Some points here may help you base on study/ facts/experience:

Decide to GET OVER it

I believe no one could offer so much help regarding the matter but you. You could cry the whole night and day, it’s normal! And who doesn’t? But never let yourself consumed about the whole thing and leave yourself no option. Whether you have to decide to get over it or you really have to get over it! First things first – MOVE ON.

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Reach Out to Families and Friends

“The best times are always found when friends and family gather round” (Family Quotes). Most common mistake one could make is turning away from their families and friends, and abruptly settles to a whole new world with that someone whom she thought, would stay for the rest of her life – though some may do have successful relationships in the future. From the time we were born until we were ready to decide for ourselves, our families and friends are already there and that they made greater impact on our lives. I’m sure enough that they could give us the best help that we are looking for, especially when we are in distress and pain. They are willing to help you, love you unconditionally, share your thoughts, and how you feel – simply reach out. Value your family ties and never cut it out.

Acceptance

The hardest part of moving on is to accept the reality that it’s really over instead of ruminating. The memories you shared together may have contributed a part of what you are now but just leave it there. You cannot change it, nor could bring it back. The experience may be too painful to accept, but you cannot move on and focus to live a normal life if you bury yourself from the past. Change your routines, the ones you used to when you were romantically in love, it really helps. As Dr. Fisher asserts “break-up needs to be treated as an addiction. If you’re trying to quit smoking, you don’t keep a pack of cigarettes by the bed.” You’re simply torturing yourself.

Focus and Advance

Focus on what you have, on your positive experiences, and ignore the things that you haven’t. What I mean is, since you are in the process of moving on, make yourself a priority for happiness. Pamper yourself on a vacation leave, eating healthy, breathing fresh air or beach walking with families and friends. Feed your mind with positivity and allow it to sink into your soul – make it as your daily habit. Most studies have proven it, and as a result, to bring so many benefits and is good for your immune system. Advance yourself on what may happen in the future, and your actions will always follow as to what your goals will be. Never lose focus.

Time Heals

Marian Williamson wrote: “We do not heal the past by dwelling there; we heal the past by living fully in the present”. You may think of revenge but never do it, don’t stress yourself on depriving your own happiness. As time goes by, you will be used to the changes on the things around you. Many would probably say that it’s not necessary to be friends with our exes, maybe not yet today, tomorrow, but when time mends our broken hearts, one day you will find a part of you that is ready to build friendship. And that’s what we call TOTAL RECOVERY!